This is a response to Excuses, Excuses. As a teen myself, I can somewhat see where your son is coming from. While he knows that something may have been his fault, and while he knows that you know that it was his fault, he could be afraid to admit to it. The fear could be possible disapproval from his parents or others. He could be worried he's letting you down. Also, if he's popular and gets good grades, there could be some perfectionism going on. Just a thought.

-The other side of the spectrum

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Dear Alice,

This is a follow-up response to Excuses, Excuses. In your response, you suggested a casual time to have a conversation, and your suggestions included while making dinner, driving in a car, etc. While driving in a car may seem like a good spot because of the privacy, it is a terrible place to talk. I speak from experience. It was my Mother's favorite place to trap me into a conversation. It really is a trap! There is no escape, you can't walk out of the room, take a break, run to the bathroom to splash water on your face and collect yourself, etc. If the object is to be relaxed and talk about a difficult subject ? whatever it is ? if your teenager, husband, or wife "feels" trapped, like you do in a car, it is NOT the place to talk. I would shut down in an instant.

I just thought you would appreciate feedback. Thanks