Alice—
If a man is performing anal sex, can he actually feel his partner's
waste products? Please answer because I read somewhere that the proper
thing to do is perform an enema first and I can't believe this is true.
— Thinking about the back door
Dear Thinking about the back door,
An enema prior to anal sex is not a necessary procedure, and it is
uncommon. It is a good idea, however, for the partner receiving anal sex
to take a trip to the toilet (and possibly the shower for a soapy wash)
before anything gets started. If the recipient has recently made a bowel
movement and can claim a healthy digestive system (one free from diarrhea,
constipation, or intestinal disorders), only trace amounts of waste
products will remain in the anus and rectum, far too little for the
penetrating partner to "feel" during the act. What men do feel during
anal sex is the "tight" sensation of the anus, and the increased friction
on the penis this causes. The anus is a highly sensitive area, rich in
nerve endings. The anal sphincter responds to the initial penetration
attempt with a spastic contraction, which is usually felt by the male
penetrating the anus.
Anal bacteria from waste products can be on the penis following
anal intercourse, so it is critical to thoroughly clean the penis
afterwards, especially before engaging in vaginal intercourse or
receiving oral sex.
Important information about anal sex: always use a condom and lots of
water-based lube to ensure that the condom doesn't tear. Anal sex is
considered a high risk behavior for HIV and other STI transmission. So,
have fun and be safe!
- Alice
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